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Problem Or Difficulty?
By Charles Bentley, Ph. D.

The two words, problem and difficulty, are often used interchangeably. But, when you explore their true meaning, you’ll see that they refer to two quite different concepts. So let’s take a minute or so to explore the fundamental difference between the subjective, personalised and internal nature of a problem - that is, a conflict in a person’s perception of elements in the real world - and the actuality - the existential, undeniable fact - of the thousand and one random difficulties that always will happen in the course of a lifetime.

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So what is this stuff all about?

Simply, that life skills coaching is about creating change and helping people to grow personally.

All of us at this time are the sum of every single decision, no matter how small, made up until this moment.

Even “not making” a decision is an absolute choice.

So every experience we have had has forced us to make a decision and in that process, we change as a consequence.

For example, two children have an alcoholic father.

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Our overall performance is based on how we perceive ourselves. If we have low self-esteem, it often hinders us from succeeding in life. We may achieve some of our tasks, but often we fail to set goals that back plans to our success.

Our success, performance to handle daily tasks, and making good decisions depend on our attitude. If we are tired, stressed, worried, in pain or any other negative feelings, our daily performance and long term as well will not be that great.

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Alcoholism is one of the most common addictions in the present-day world. Once an alcoholic has identified him or herself as such, then it’s time that they reach out for help for their addiction. In many cases, the alcoholic’s family or friends have to take the first step in getting the addicted person into a recovery state. Sometimes an intervention is staged, where the alcoholic is given an ultimatum: go to rehab or get out of our lives. Other times, simply speaking concern to the alcoholic can snap them back to reality and make them realize that their addiction has progressed into a disease and is affecting others.

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How often do you hear people complaining: ‘There’s something missing in my life. If only I knew what it was, I could do something about it’? Perhaps you think those kind of thoughts yourself. As a life coach, I certainly come across it regularly when new clients come to me, searching for a way forward in a life that’s become somehow meaningless and dull for them.

The usual reflex response is to buy expensive new toys and to experiment with increasingly extreme new experiences. This behaviour pattern follows the reasoning that the more you try out, the more likely your are to find that one special thing which will make the difference. But does the reasoning actually make sense? In most cases I don’t believe that it does.

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Quotes to encourage, inspire and ponder.

Personalize these and put them on your refrigerator… or in your wallet, dashboard, etc.

Imagination is the birthplace of genius and the great ancestor of all human achievement.

(Change to read- MY imagination is the birthplace of MY genius.)

Imagination is visualization.

(My imagination visualizes my success and achievements)

When we think what we deserve, we define what we want.

(When I think what I deserve, I define what I accomplish.)

The law of attraction could be more productive were it understood as resulting from action.

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1. What is one thing every Ventriloquist must do?

“A man’s gift makes room for him and brings him before great men.” Proverbs 18:16. Practice! In the room where you spend the most time, place your puppet on a stand as well as a mirror. Pretend you’re talking to a friend every time you pass by your puppet. Move your puppet in silly ways. New ideas develop every day as you grow to know your puppet. Their personality emerges. Even if you don’t have talent and want to be a good ventriloquist, just pick up a puppet and play with it OFTEN. Practice your lip control when you are in the car.

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Many people feel nervous and shy when they have to make conversation with others, especially when they don’t know they very well. Does this happen to you, especially when you are trying to make small talk with someone?

Once you start to criticize yourself in your mind, your ability to make conversation successfully will go down hill very quickly.

What can you do to improve your conversation confidence?

One of the best ways to become more confident at making conversation is to notice what negative messages you are sending yourself about your conversation ability.

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Happiness Is A Choice - 3 Keys To Choosing Happiness
By Jason Osborn

Did you know that happiness is a choice? I know it doesn’t always seem like it but it is. Just think about it. How can someone who has everything in life be miserable and yet someone that hardly has anything can be amazingly happy? It comes down to what they choose. Happiness is a choice that you must make. Here are 3 keys to help you choose happiness.

1. Don’t be led by emotions.

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I have found that through meditation I can get closer to God than through prayer. I live on a lake back in the woods, so I’m in a perfect place for meditation. I sit on the deck in the late evening or at night and I meditate while I either watch the sun set over the water or while listening to the night sounds.

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